The former MTV VJ recently tied the knot with long-time beau Nick Lachey and plenty of their friends and family were in attendance but one key person was missing…Vanessa’s mom! THe reason she was absent is pretty deep. Find out why after the jump.

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RADAR: Helen Bondoc had no idea that her gorgeous 30-year-old daughter was even getting married. And when Star spoke with her exclusively at her South Carolina mobile home 12 days after Vanessa and Nick’s July 15 wedding in the British Virgin Islands, Helen struggled with her emotions.

Oh my goodness, she’s beautiful!” Helen, 57, told Star as she grew misty-eyed while looking at photos of Vanessa and Nick on their St. Barts honeymoon.

“She’s changed so much, though I can still see that little scar on her forehead from where she picked at her chicken pox when she was a child.

“I didn’t have a clue that Vanessa was getting married. We last spoke about 12 years ago, on the phone. I just wanted to talk to her and tell her everything straight about my life. But I still think about her all the time, and I still love her dearly.”

When Vanessa was 9, Helen dropped her and her brother off at their father’s, telling him to “keep them for now.”

But she never came back.

So sad! I hope they can reconcile one day….