While initial attraction is almost always based on looks, they aren’t the best indicator of how someone will fair in bed…
Recipe for a Good Lover…
1. HUMILITY: A narcissist in the bedroom is about as boring as staring at your reflection in the water. Let me tell you why. Since narcissists are primarily concerned with themselves, their actions will be based on what feels good to them. This often makes for a quick and very lousy lay…not to mention anticlimactic on your end. Just being honest.
But on the contrary, the humble lover is quiet and confident. They don’t feel the need to tell you about their prowess, they’d rather show and prove. The humble lover is most often a giver. This person wants nothing more than to see you climax. The humble lover will take joy in seeing you moan and squirm…watching those toes curl up is what it’s all about for them.
Some ways of telling if a girl or guys is humble is if they compliment you. They afford you common courtesies and are polite. TRUST ME, arrogance never likes to compliment.
2. GIVING: Hold your horses! I’m not saying that every guy or girl that spends a quick 20 bucks is gonna be a beast in bed. What I AM saying is that nice gestures such as flowers or a home-cooked meal demonstrate someone that is EAGER to PLEASE. That translates to ORGASM! The giver will go out of their way to make you feel special. That goes for in the streets or in the sheets. Even simple gestures such as bringing you an extra napkin while you are eating or adjusting your seat before you hop in the car is a sign that they aim to accommodate you. PROCEED.
3. LISTENER: Ahhh, to master this art is truly a gift. Most people ‘hear’ instead of ‘listen’. When someone truly listens, they digest everything you say. While listening they get a feel for what type of person you are. They take what you say and transfer it to the bedroom. If you are overly conscious about your tummy, they will do or say things that make you more comfortable with baring it all out.
Listening is also important while doing the do. You know your body. You know what works, what doesn’t and what is just plain awkward for you. Just because the last guy or girl like the downward facing dog position doesn’t mean you will! A good listener understands that and will allow you to guide them.
4. OPEN MINDED: Willing to try a new dish, down for the occasional rock climb or skinny dip? They’re probably an open-minded person which translates to mild-freakiness in the bedroom. This ‘down for the cause’ type of personality is a winner. They’ll be down to switch flip it, slow it down or take it to the streets. It’s whatever. This characteristic introduces the fun-factor to love-making.
5. PASSIONATE: Someone who puts 110% into their career, or workout regimen…someone who not only believes in a cause but will donate and march in the name of it is more than likely a passionate person. Their passion will transfer over VERY WELL in the bedroom. This is someone who is able to tap into their emotions and and allow themselves to be impacted. They’ll play their part, put in their work and do so very intensely. PASSION is a key ingredient.
