Shayna Writes:
Dear #IFWT My best friend and I have been close since pre-school. We went to the same schools except for college. Now that I am away at school, she and my boyfriend have been chatting and stuff over Facebook. At first it didn’t  bother me but I saw some pics of them at a party together and they looked really comfortable with each other. They were hugging face to face. Now she is acting really secretive about everything including information about that party. I’m getting really annoyed by her and the situation. What should I do?
First of all, you two have been friends for way to long to let this be your demise. So let’s refocus your attention to your boyfriend. How is he acting? Have you asked him about the party? Has he been as available as he normally is? You want to pay VERY CLOSE attention to any changes in his behavior. Guys are such dead giveaways when they’re doing something trifling. Remain normal but keep a log of things he tells you, like his whereabouts, and interactions. Not that you have to be inspector gadget or anything but just keep track of your convos because you want to be able to spot him in a lie IF he is lying.Â
DO NOT probe unless you have solid facts that there IS something going on! The more you probe without facts, the less information you will ever learn. You can only act on SOLID facts. Otherwise just pay close attention.
The important thing to remember is that you and your bestie’s friendship is WAY more important than that guy. Guys come and GO! BUT, you do need to figure out why she is acting funny toward you. I say you guys need to have a heart to heart. You’ve been friends for long enough to be real with each other and get to the bottom of things.
Hope that was helpful!
