Anonymous Writes:

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and we’re doing good.  The only thing that bothers me about the relationship is that I think he tries to trick me into loving him.  For example, I dated athletes in the past and he knows this.  I asked him in the beginning of us talking if he played sports and he said no.  Then after he found out that I dated athletes, he tried to tell me that he played sports in high school which is a straight lie.  He doesn’t even look athletic.  I’ve caught him in a few other lies too.  How can I show him that he’s fine for me as is?

 @Jazzyvadney answers after the jump!

It’s obvious that he is desperately seeking your approval.  However, what isn’t obvious is why he is doing so.  It’s quite possible that he doesn’t feel adequate.  If he’s a small guy, he might have some issues with not being that typical, buff guy that you normally go for.  You should try doting on his strong points.  Whether he’s really good in business or good in bed, you should give him extra big-ups on his strong suits.  You could also try not to mention your exes LOL.  I know it’s too late for this, but from now on, hold off on that convo.  Here’s why…even though you’re just mentioning meaningless facts in random conversation, you boo is silently comparing himself to your ex.  BUT, There is a bigger fish to fry!  He is telling you lies!  This is never good.  Let him know that you caught that lie.  Don’t spend to much time on reproaching him, just do a good job at making him feel silly for telling a fib.  The important thing to convey is that manipulating someone into loving you is sneaky and not to mention pathetic.  The good thing is that this problem is light weight and can be nipped in the bud. 

Good Luck!