So you’ve met a nice little lady. Listen closely to what she says in those initial conversations. Particularly what she says about past relationships. She could be speaking a cryptic code which translates to “Run”! Read on after the jump!
Not in ANY specific order cuz all these quirks are equally NOT-DATEABLE!
The “BAD TALKER”:
Most people can admit their part in failed relationships. They might not admit to their ex what they did wrong, but admitting to other people shouldn’t be an issue, right? If you’re just meeting someone and they are bashing the heck out of their ex, beware. It means that they have a serious issue accepting responsibility for their wrongs. And you guessed it-this probably was just the straw that broke the camel’s back. They more than likely were never wrong about anything during the relationship. This spells D-I-S-A-S-T-E-R!
The “SUFFERER”:
Every girl you come across is gonna have at least 1 bad thing to say about her ex. Hell, that’s why they aren’t together anymore! But listen to the “bad shit” timeline. If stuff got jacked up in 2008 and she stayed until 2011, RUN! This is normally a sign that ol’ girl is suffering from a low self esteem. She probably thinks and believes that no one else wants her. Therefore she allowed herself to be a doormat for the last guy. Its up to you whether you wanna invest in that type of situation but a low self esteem comes with a LOT of added baggage!
The “FAST FORWARD LOVER”:
OK, this one might be a bit hard to read. So you guys just met and things are getting off to a great start. Yall are going out, having sleepovers, never want to leave the other’s side…yatta yatta yatta. About 3 weeks in, she wants to lock you down. She’s talking about marriage, asking what you’d do if the “accidentally” got preggo. HALT! Be alarmed especially if this was the same course of events with her ex! First of all, she’s trying to lock you in for one of two reasons. She could want to lock you in because she is helplessly DESPERATE! Which means there’s nothing special about you, she was just waiting for someone who fit the basic criteria. Sad but TRUE. The second reason is that she wants to lock you in before you find out “other” things about her. Who knows what these things might be, but she wants you to sign the dotted line before you can read the fine print.
The PEEPING TOM:
Is her story riddled with lines like…”I found the pics in his email” or “A girl named Felicia signed in with the doorman, and she didn’t leave for three hours”. RUN like hell! This chick is PARANOID. This is ROBO COP in a skirt! If you choose to move forward, be prepared to always be explaining your whereabouts such as, why your phone is on silent, who you’re with, who will be meeting you there, are there girls there…you get the drift!
Last but not least “STATIC CLING”
Why did her last relationship fail? If it’s anywhere along the lines of “He didn’t want to spend time with me” or “He complained about me wanting to be around him and his friends” you need to RUN. Before you say I’m tripping, please listen to my logic. In every relationship, your time APART is just as important as your time together. Yes, you want your boys to approve of her but they don’t need to be friends with her. That’s your crew and also your safe haven. If you choose to proceed, be ready to draw the line and be ready for her to OVEERRIDE it!
Hope that was helpful!
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